My drop in the ocean

....probably the funniest thing around :)

I'm not cynical about love - I have been deeply in love with the same woman for several years now. But it always amuses me what people do in love, one minute a man can be the wisest guy around, the next minute love turns him into a relentless fool. But the beauty of it all is that often it is also the other way around.

We can get away with the most foolish things in love - and still be labelled heroes. There is no dearth of clichés and stereotypes on the topic of everlasting love. "Love is letting go" is a oft-quoted one. Seriously! Some people applaud at this. "Love is suffering. The more you suffer in love, the purer it grows". This one probably came from a masochist. Or it could have come from his sadist lover for that matter. Well, during certain phases of life (for some people, all their lives), we swear by such quotes on love.

Some people establish rules - "Love is selfless" (Oh yeah, right!), "Love is having no expectations" (Tell that to my girlfriend on Valentine's Day!), "Love is never having to say you're sorry" (Please don't try this one after you've been an hour late for your date), "Love is not what binds you, love is what sets you free" (Why am I not allowed to admire other girls then?)
Disclaimer: The comments in brackets are purely attempted humor and not my own thoughts (really, darling, if you're reading this!)

Coming back, how many of you feel we tend to love the way we've been told to - in novels, movies, stories. I feel we have these clichés in the back of our minds, and they govern our behaviour in love, conscious or otherwise. Maybe it is for the better, and maybe these 'rules' really do make things smoother. That is not my point - I'm just wondering how much we think for ourselves and how much we let romantic decorum dictate our ideas. The next time you're inclined to do something heroic/romantic in love, go ahead and do it, but also try and think about it, it might provide some amusement :o)

All said and done, love deserves full credit for stopping all logicians and reason-toting professors in their tracks. For "Love is a matter of the heart, and the heart follows no reasoning, no logic" after all! So much to say about love, so little time; maybe another post, another day.